This story is more of a lesson on what I’ve learned about pleasing a woman with my mouth. I know many men brag about their abilities—and trust me, women do the same—but I think after reading my thoughts on the subject, you’ll find my knowledge on the matter particularly apt.

My obsession with oral sex started as a teenager. I’m sure I’m far from the only male to search “how to perform oral on a woman” online, but exhibiting the desire to please from a young age certainly shows what I had in mind. The first girl I ate out had no idea what I was doing, and I don’t think that’s uncommon. No Google search in the world could really explain what it’s actually like once you’re down there. I remember Google told me to draw the ABCs with my tongue. Looking back on this now, it’s quite hysterical to think someone actually thought that was sound advice. That said, no sexual partner ever found my efforts lacking as I made my way through relationships, and I think I became at least pretty decent at eating pussy.

I think where a lot of guys mess up is thinking that because they can make one girl cum, that means they’re doing good. For one thing, girls fake orgasms incredibly often. Rather than correcting a guy, they will just fake it to make the laughable attempt stop. Sometimes they really like the guy, figure it will get better later, so they fake it with hopes that it eventually will. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn’t. I think the most common mistake among guys is thinking that girls want it to be violent. Ramming your fingers in a girl when she is barely wet, or hardly turned on, is not the most sensual approach.

The biggest thing I’ve learned from being with many women is this: every girl and every pussy is different. You have to be into it and attuned to what she wants. Listen to her moans and the way her body shakes, respond to the way her thighs clench, the way her fingers run through your hair. Sometimes sex can be drunk, rough, and sloppy, but when I have a chance to really show a girl that I care about her, I take it. Teasing a girl is always a must; I want to make her so wet that her panties are soaked before I even touch her. Blowing over her panties and kissing her inner thighs, exploring her body with my mouth and nibbling on her tits. If she feels comfortable, I love to tie her up and be able to control her without her pushing away from it being too intense. Once she is soaked, I take her panties off with my teeth. Sometimes the panties are so wet that her cum sticks to them as I pull them off. This is when I really start to tease. I take my cock and rub it against her clit, slide it down like it’s going to go in. I want her to beg for my cock, to want it inside of her so badly. It’s not time for her to have it—I’m not done yet—so I hop back down and breathe on her clit. I kiss around the lips and spread them open. She’s writhing around and she’s dripping wet. I love to make her beg for my mouth, a sensual and hungry, “Daddy, please eat my clit.” These are the moments I live for: to turn a beautiful woman on so much that she can’t stand it.

Technique: I start by putting my mouth over her clit and sucking, then I move on to lightly flicking my tongue against her and swirling the tip of my tongue around and around her clit. Many times a girl will come quickly after this, but some girls are harder to please. Some beg you to go harder, to use fingers and even toys, to eat their ass while you finger them and they play with their clit. Once a girl is soaked and ready, she will do almost anything I want. The goal is to make her cum more times than she ever has before, to give me the look that I want. I want her look to say that she is astounded. I want her look to say that she’s dazed, floating on clouds of climax-fueled endorphins. I want her look to say that no one has ever made her cum like that before in her life. Honestly, I hope that she has already lived that moment, but in my experience many girls haven’t. You might think I’m crazy for writing all this, but I think most girls would agree.

Eating a girl’s pussy is the way to a girl’s heart, and it’s definitely as good a way as any to make sure you’ll be someone they’ll never forget.